Ways In Which Insecurity Can Block Your Progress
Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud.“I can’t do it” is the most difficult sort of ‘brain freeze’ to thaw out. It’s human to be nervous about things, but deeming yourself incapable/unworthy of at least the attempt, is a detrimental tendency, and a tough one to snap out of.
Here’s how personal insecurities hinder your self-development:
- The obvious one – fear of failure – No one likes to fail, so when they believe that the chances of that are high, they avoid setting themselves up for the embarrassment. However, the relief is only temporary. What if the very thing you’re afraid of is also something you want very badly – like a dream job interview, or an investment towards a desirable home? It’s terrible to realise that the ‘what if’ plague is worse than the actual failure!
- Comparing your journey with others – This journey could be personal, like being unmarried when your closest friends are having babies. Or professional. I’ve personally been horrified on discovering that I was reporting to someone in a previous job who was actually a few years younger to me. It starts with, “How did they get here?”, and continues with an almost pathological obsession with minutely observing everything the other is doing. Also, because a comparison-complex fuels the observation, you begin to attribute greater success to their doings than is actually warranted. Every compliment they receive is magnified in your head. This is draining on your emotional/intellectual faculties. And, you’re truly stagnant. How will you not be, when you’re worried about the grass on the other side of the fence, when you should be wholeheartedly watering the grass on your side?
- Intimidation by the responsibility of ‘upkeep’ – There are many out there who fail despite promising levels of success in the initial stages; because they aren’t able to keep at it consistently. Overthinking/overcomplicating the success strategy is often the root cause. A profound lack of self-esteem/self-confidence is at the heart of this sad development. In some cases, absent or shaky support systems in the surroundings are to blame. Either way, when you can’t trust your abilities to replicate your own success, you’re at the mercy of obstacles. These are often imagined, which is why they’re called insecurities. There is greater focus on avoiding the hurdles, instead of on enjoying the journey and the adrenaline rush. Nothing that you treat as a task to ‘get over and be done with’ will guarantee creative satisfaction and recognition/success.
It’s sometimes difficult to control the transformation of automatic nervousness into a crippling insecurity, or even into a full-blown meltdown. One of the most rational and effective ways to combat this is to attempt every stage of a difficult or stressful task/situation, with full preparation, and the sincerest levels of hard work possible. Instead of thrashing out various ways of doing one thing, it’s better to execute calculated, well-researched, out-of-the box methods, so that the freshness of the challenge makes the job more fun, and less tedious; in addition to providing distraction from any inevitable human insecurities.