All About Unprotected Sex
Unprotected sex basically means having sex without the use of condoms—whether oral, vaginal or anal—that puts both the partners at an alarming risk of contracting STDs and AIDS.Now, why would someone want to do that, eh? Before we get there, let’s talk about the sheer magnitude of things that can go wrong even during protected sex.
Let’s take a look.
The truth is that even though they’re called boners, penises don’t have any bones. Wondering how they get so hard then? Thanks to the vessels called corpora cavernosa that engorge with blood to make erections happen.
Think of it as an inflated tube that becomes firm because of internal pressure when filled with air. Corpora cavernosa is protected by fibrous coverings called tunica albuginea, and fractures happen when an aggressive blunt force hits these coverings, during sex or masturbation. The chances of this happening in sexual positions with the woman in control are more, and you will immediately know from the popping/cracking sound (of the tissue tearing). This will be followed by black-and-blue bruising and, of course, lots and lots of pain. You will have to rush to the ER immediately, my friend.
Cock ring gone wrong
A cock ring is placed around a penis, usually at the base, primarily to slow the flow of blood from the erect penile tissue, thus, maintaining an erection for a much longer period of time. A man may wear an erection ring in cases of erectile dysfunction or purely because the wearer likes the particular sensation of tightness and extreme engorgement.
Cock rings come with an instruction to never be worn for more than 30 minutes. Rings that are too tight, or are worn for too long, may cause priapism which is a medical emergency that can result in severe and permanent damage, including penile gangrene that may even require an amputation of the penis to limit the spread of infection.
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Too much sucking
When your partner is a master of oral sex and wants to impress you, you may end up with an aubergine penis. Even though that is nothing but a ‘love bite’ on your penis, this capillary haemorrhaging should be a cause for concern if it doesn’t disappear in a week. In 2011, a woman in New Zealand suffered a minor stroke due to a clot formation from her partner sucking on her neck, which led to a paralysis in her left arm.
Bites and bones
A sex toy company called Lelo conducted a study on the most common sex-related injuries that land people in major trouble and took everyone by surprise. Two of the top 10 injuries that happened were bites that got infected later and broken bones. I can still imagine infected bites (geez!), but you’ll be appalled at the bones that are broken most often—toes, fingers, and ribs. Weird, right?
The anus is a highly vascular area, and so penetration can cause lacerations, tears, and bleeding called fissures. These open wounds not only serve as sites of STD transmissions but if these wounds bleed too much or for too long, they will also need quick medical intervention.
Lost and found
Whether it’s a condom or a sex toy, anything that goes into any of the orifices is considered a foreign object. And sometimes, the objects that go in don’t come out and seem to be lost somewhere in there. Doctors suggest waiting for the vagina to relax after intercourse before a final attempt is made to retrieve the lost comb, cucumber, carrot, pickle, dildo, pen, pencil, bottle, glow-stick, and *insert here more objects of your choice, pun unintended*.
In cases where the object isn’t found, a trip to the emergency room (ER) would be much required.
Little accidents here and there
This list should’ve been over already. God, how dangerous is sex? Well, not very. It’s just that a few very unlucky people land themselves in trouble every now and then while ‘experimenting’. The other miscellaneous things that have happened to such people during sex include pulled muscles, concussions, vaginal bleeding, and sore testicles. All these things have landed people in the ER time and again, if not the ICU.
You’re smart; I’m sure you can imagine the kind of STDs that would come from unprotected sex. That guy you met online? Don’t go close unless he has a condom.
That girl at the party who says she’s always had feelings for you? I beg you to use a condom before you pounce on the opportunity. Repeat after me: Unprotected sex is the worst idea ever!
Now that we have that out of the way, let’s talk about the kind of misinformation that is going around about STDs. You know, I always say, the only thing worse than not using a condom is using two at a time. Yes, people have done and continue to do so.
Don’t be quick to scoff, for maybe you will realise how close your brushes with STDs have been all these years too when you read the following truths below:
You can avoid STDs by choosing anal or oral sex: Busted. The STD-causing virus or bacteria can enter through the tiniest cuts or scrapes in your mouth and anus, just as they can in your genitals. Some diseases like herpes or genital warts can spread even through skin-to-skin contact with an open infected sore. Bottom line: wherever there is any sexual contact and there is unprotected sex involved—oral, vaginal, or anal—there are chances of STDs because they’re called sexually transmitted diseases and not genetically transmitted diseases. Get it?
You can catch an STD from using public restrooms: Yes, just like you can catch diphtheria from doing ballet. *Note: I hope you catch my sarcasm here, thanks.* Most pathogens cannot survive for very long outside the body, and for a transmission to occur, the germs would have to make their way to your urethral or genital tract (and it doesn’t just magically happen) or enter the body through a cut or sore on the butt or thighs, which is possible theoretically, but practically, is rarer than rare.
Therefore, the only way you could catch an STD from a toilet seat is when you have unsafe sex on a toilet seat.
Only ‘slutty’ people get STDs: I hate to break your good-person-bubble here, but STDs don’t discriminate; only humans do. STDs could happen to astronauts or waiters, babysitters or presidents. The only way you cannot be at risk is by not having sex at all, ever.
But in case you choose to (which is great), then we suggest using adequate protection.
If my partner has an STD, obviously I will see it: Well, unless you have special powers, I doubt you will see anything. Even doctors cannot tell just by looking at a patient because STDs are often asymptomatic in the beginning; even the patients themselves might not know it. And in some cases, people can carry an infection for an entire lifetime, without having an outbreak.
Therefore, only blood tests can precisely diagnose a condition. What we suggest for all couples, in a monogamous relationship or not, is getting regularly tested for STDs, and always using a condom during sex (unless you’re trying to get pregnant).
When you have sex in a hot tub or pool, the heat or chlorine will kill any disease-causing germs you could catch, so you stay STD-free: May I please say—HAHAHAHAHA! That is definitely the most scientifically stupid thing I have ever heard. But I’m glad that whoever made up this theory tried to put some science behind it. It’s true that both sperm and pathogens can’t stay alive in water for too long, no credits to the pool or hot tub water though; it’s just that both of them cannot survive outside the body. But once the sperm has been ejaculated into the vagina, nothing outside can stop the sperm from reaching the egg.
So even if we consider that pool chemicals may kill the sperm (or the infection-causing microorganism), that’s only if the man ejaculates into the surrounding water. If he were to ejaculate into the woman, then the chances of catching an STD in such a case would be just as much as it would be when they’re having sex anywhere else in the world.
2 condoms are better than 1: Dear Lord! I wonder who came up with that?! When it comes to condoms, 2 would mean more friction (between the 2 condoms), breakage, and leakage, which really negates the point of a condom. It is also important to wear a condom during oral sex and anal sex because even if the male partner hasn’t reached an orgasm, there is still ejaculate that is produced, which can spread STDs, or cause unwanted pregnancies.
What did we learn?
That no matter what people tell you, it is important that you use your common sense. Actually, let common sense be. Please do your research, instead of believing in what your friend tells you. When in doubt, use 2 things—advice from a specialist and a condom. Oh, and yes, erase the words ‘unprotected sex’ from your vocabulary; at least until the time you’re planning to have a baby, but that’s a discussion for another time.