Top 5 Signs Of Relationship Anxiety
Have you ever been in a place where you want a relationship, but don’t want it? Well, you might be experiencing relationship anxiety. Most millennials experience anxiety in relationships. Here are common symptoms of relationship anxiety.Do you experience these signs and symptoms of anxiety? Worry not, as we also tell you strategies that would help you manage your anxiety and find your ‘happily ever after’.
Anxiety is one of the most common mental illnesses. Especially among our generation- the millennials. According to the American Psychological Association, 12% of millennials have an officially diagnosed anxiety disorder.
Also, today, we see broken relationships all around. Yes, there is a connection. Anxiety is a major reason behind failed relationships. We’re no way saying that people who suffer from anxiety disorders are incapable of loving and don’t deserve to be loved. In fact, we believe, everyone deserves a fairytale love story. And anxiety should not come in its way. Before we tell you how to get rid of it, you must understand the signs and symptoms of anxiety.
Here are the symptoms that indicate you might be experiencing relationship anxiety:
1. You imagine the undesirable
Even when everything is going right, your mind tells you- it isn’t. You get cynical for no reason and imagine things going badly. This creates an atmosphere of negativity in the relationship and leaves you and your partner with a feeling of unexplainable despondency.
2. You are scared of communication
Do you feel hesitant to talk to your partner about your true feelings, as you feel that having ‘the talk’ could ruin things? Well, it’s a major sign of relationship anxiety. Very often people who experience relationship anxiety are scared of talking about their feelings with their partner, as they fear that it would lead to something negative or would create problems in their relationship. Not communicating with your partner leads to a communication gap and creates misunderstandings.
3. You suffer from commitment phobia
You want to be with your partner, but the idea of commitment scares you. You want to feel loved, but you are scared of investing yourself in it. Commitment phobia is very common among people these days; it’s the reason why many youngsters mark their relationship status as, ‘it’s complicated’.
4. You hold yourself back
Your anxiety makes you hold yourself back. It stops you from being yourself and loving to your full potential. You fear that you would come across as ‘too clingy’. You fear getting hurt or rejected for sharing your feelings and being your true self.
5. You only count the negatives
If your focus is always more on the negative qualities of your partner or you remember only the ‘bad times’, then it’s probably a sign that you aren’t willing to take your relationship forward. It could be because of commitment phobia or simply the bitter experiences in the past, but it’s a sign that indicates you experience relationship anxiety.
6. You ignore red flags
Ignoring red flags is as much as a sign of relationship anxiety, as is only looking at the ‘negative’. Many a time, people with anxiety aren’t confident about themselves and ignore red flags, as they believe they are unlovable. They turn a blind eye to red flags, as they fear that they would end up all alone, if the relationship ends.
If these points made you say, ‘so me’, you could be suffering from relationship anxiety. Well, worry not, it could be tackled. Check out these strategies that could be used to manage anxiety.
Also, here are some quotes that would calm you and make your love life easier:
“Anxiety is love’s greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.” ~ Anais Nin
- “People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.” ~ George Bernard Shaw
- “People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So, the mind then becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt, and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
- “Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” ~ Deepak Chopra
- “Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be.” ~ Jennifer Elisabeth