We Tell You How Obesity Affects Your Sex Life
Having a little cushion is good for your partner to push in, but a lot of it can be a problem...for you.If you look at any magazine today, or even at the television or online, you will find an amazing array of pictures, videos, and text which have one thing in common – sex. Sexual poses, attractive people in seductive outfits, and other paraphernalia related to sex are thrown on us day by day, minute by minute. But have you ever seen a full-figured person posing sexily in an advertisement, writing about sex on a blog, or talking openly about feeling sexy? Probably not.
Does that mean they don’t think, feel, or talk about it? Obviously not. The messages we get from society and the media today all seem to scream that sexuality is only for the lithe and the skinny, not for the voluptuous, the buxom, or the overweight.
So how does being bigger affect your sex life? Take notes:
- Body-image issues – Internalising all the messages that we see can lead to body-image issues. When pictures everywhere claim to show you what attractive should be, you don’t feel attractive enough. With this loss of confidence, it is sometimes difficult to remember that not everyone’s idea of beauty is the same. People who don’t have a regular sexual partner can have an even harder time with this, as their efforts to find someone might dwindle into nothingness, leading to increasingly unfulfilled needs, frustration, and low self-esteem.
- Low sex drive – Research has found that the many physical conditions that come with obesity may lower sex drive. Type 2 diabetes, hypertension, and high cholesterol are examples of the same. These conditions, and the medications taken for them can affect desire as well as performance, especially in men. That’s not to say that women don’t feel the effects of this – increased fat means less blood flow to the clitoris, and less desire.
3. Erectile dysfunction – Although there is no direct link between being obese and erectile dysfunction, it is definitely a contributing factor. Obesity, and its related conditions, prevent efficient blood flow to all parts of the body, including the penis. It can also cause damage to the blood vessels. This can lead to erectile dysfunction, and even impotence.
4. Hormonal imbalances – A higher weight almost definitely means lower testosterone and other hormonal imbalances, leading to low libido for both men and women.
5. Reproductive health – Obesity can lead to PCOD, or polycystic ovarian disease in women, making their periods irregular and hence, conception difficult. Their eggs can also have chromosomal abnormalities. Obese women are also more likely to have miscarriages. Obese men can also be infertile, as weight affects sperm quality and motility.
Overweight people almost always have a decreased stamina, and sex can feel like a chore instead of something enjoyable. But don’t worry yet. Here’s what you can do to get your mojo back:
- Lose weight – This might sound like preaching, but it’s not. Losing even 5 kilos can help you feel better, image-wise, and sex drive wise.
- Accept your body – You are unique, and just because you don’t conform, doesn’t mean you are not attractive.
- Exercise – Research shows that exercising every day pushes up your sex drive.
4. Exercise for your genitals – Workouts such as yoga, cycling, and brisk walking increase blood flow to the genitals, leading to better lubrication, arousal, and desire.
5. Eat good foods – Foods that push up your blood sugar levels and cholesterol levels will leave you feeling sluggish. Opt for nutritious and light food.