The Power Of Forgiveness
It may sound like a cliché but forgiving and forgetting have a magnanimous value. When we are angry, we burn from inside and we fume and fret about the person who is the object of our angst.But sometimes, if we allow ourselves to step back and look at things anew, we would realize that there is no greater healing than allowing ourselves to forgive. As you let go of old grudges, you will find yourself less burdened and complicated. While many people take forgiveness for granted, the bottom line is that until you actually examine the root of what you are feeling, the forgiveness isn’t from the bottom of your heart.
What makes forgiveness truly transformative and why is it essential? How can you go about the process, even if you are not feeling particularly forgiving?
Swallow your pride
It is next to impossible to be compassionate or forgiving if you are feeling egotistical about things. In order to get over something and move on, you have to let go of your pride and look at things as they are in real. Having a gigantic ego and refusing to acknowledge things can be problematic, and there will never be any closure. No one is perfect and the individual standing at the other end may have messed up really bad, but you sometimes need to look beyond that and swallow your pride. Forgiving someone won’t lessen your stature.
Vent your emotions
The person who is the object of your wrath may not be there in front of you but you must choose to express your emotions to others and examine your feelings openly. By doing so, you not only acknowledge that you have been harbouring resentment for a while but also engage in a process of catharsis, which allows you to move on in life.
Give yourself the gift of peace
Sometimes we harbour anger and resentment for so long that we forget who we are without those toxic thoughts and emotions. It is very important to remind yourself why you were hurt or angry in the first place and move on from there. Very often, over a period of time, the offence pales and you realize that you were holding onto negative emotions that should have left you a long time ago. No one is saying that you should not get angry if you have been wronged, but by forgiving, you end up giving yourself the gift of peace and self-love—you will find yourself so much happier than before.
Understand the cycle of life
No one is perfect and the sooner you realize that you have made your fair share of mistakes, the happier you will be. If you are in a position where you need to forgive someone, remember that there are others who are likely to be in a position where they can also choose whether to forgive you or not. Understanding that those forgiving are conversely also looking to be forgiven at some point in time will go a long way in ensuring that the process of forgiveness is an easy one.
While it is easy to fall into old patterns and allow the same old wounds to fester if you are looking for inner peace, compassion and want to transform your life you must make peace with yourself and the choices you have made. Forgiveness doesn’t come easy to everyone—especially so if the problem at hand is one that rakes up feelings of anger, betrayal, resentment and fear. While no one is saying that you need to forgive everyone who has impacted your life negatively, begin the process of letting go and becoming a happier person by granting yourself and those around you with the gift of forgiveness.