Why You Should Spend More Quality Time With Your Child
Spending time over spending money. Always.As parents, we often focus on spending quality time with our children when it is convenient for us, meaning when we are not bogged down by work, social commitments, and taxing household chores. As a result, very often, we fail to connect with our children on a basic level, finding out what they did each day, and getting a recap of how their day panned out.
Here’s why you need to make time to know your child's day, every day:
1. It makes them feel secure – As kids grow older, they may be overwhelmed by all that’s happening around them; from peer pressure to learning pressures…the list can go on. By taking the time to talk to them each day, you are making them feel secure that someone is watching their back at all times. It also keeps channels of communication open, which often blur in the teenage years, making for an extremely healthy parent-child relationship.
2. It helps them straddle 2 worlds – Most children live a split life. For a large part of their day, they are in a school environment, where there are rules they are expected to comply with; then they come home, where they can ostensibly offload and be themselves. Sometimes, kids find it difficult to transition between these 2 worlds. By setting aside time to discuss their day with them, each day, what you are in effect doing, is helping them seamlessly blend both these worlds by being a bridge between them.
3. Helps zero in on problems, as and when they arise – Things are constantly happening in their world. If you are a working parent, not only do they have to contend with school stresses; once home, they also have to fend for themselves, or be forced to engage with secondary caregivers. From issues of self-esteem, to whether they have been bullied at school, or whether they have had an argument with a friend, this is the time to zero in on seemingly small issues that can go out of hand as they grow, unchecked and unattended.
4. Is a building block for the future – There is no substitute for good communication. By recapping your child’s day and asking pertinent, pointed, often specific questions, you are teaching them to talk through their emotions. Families that sit together at dinner time and talk about each other’s days are more likely to bond as the children grow older, and sometimes go through crises.
Make sure you show your child that what is happening in their world matters, and the key way to let them know that, is by listening to them talk about their day. Each and every day.