5 Signs You're Overparenting
Could you be overparenting in lieu of being a perfect parent? Are you being ‘too good’ in order to be a good parent? Look out for these warning signs of overparenting.We all want to be great parents and provide our children with the best of the best. Very often, in our quest to provide our kids with ‘our idea of a perfect life’, we end up overparenting. Overparenting refers to being excessively involved in the day-to-day life of one's child or children, typically in the desire to shield them from difficult situations or help them succeed. Are you too guilty of overparenting? Find out by checking these signs of overparenting.
- You are all praises- all the time
Here, we’re no way saying that you should stop appreciating your children, but showering them with excessive praise all the time can leave them delusioned.
- You help them without being asked
Let your kids find their own solutions. They might have to struggle a bit initially, but later in their lives, they’ll thank you.
- You give too many gifts
And even if you’re gifting spree is motivated to promote some positive behaviour, over-rewarding your child for each and every positive behaviour, could kill their inner motivation.
- You’ve extremely low expectations
A few days back, I remember, a toddler’s mother fighting with her husband as he asked his son to ‘keep his plate in the basin’. The mother accused the father of ‘exploiting’ the kid. Don’t be that mother! Jeez!
- You’re obsessed with them
Julie Lythcott writes, “If you’re overfocused on your kid, you’re quite likely underfocusing on your own passion. Despite what you may think, your kid is not your passion. If you treat them as if they are, you’re placing them in the very untenable and unhealthy role of trying to bring fulfilment to your life. Support your kid’s interests, yes. Be proud—very proud—of them. But find your own passion and purpose. For your kid’s sake and your own, you must.”
It’s important to remember that your tiny tots won’t always be tiny tots. One day, they’ll grow up into adults and will have to live on their own. Prepare them for that. And, most importantly, relax. We know parenting isn’t a cakewalk, but it’s no rocket science either. Relax, chill, and cherish the beautiful feeling of being a parent, everything would be hunky-dory!