There sometimes comes a point when you neither have the energy nor the will to carry on as you realise that all is not well in your marriage and it is in fact the end of the road.
There is no relationship or marriage that does not have problems but sometimes, you find yourself in a situation where you realise that love alone is not enough to salvage the situation. Sometimes marriages get into a funk and with the persistence of the couple, things get better and they find themselves cruising through marriage again. Yet, there sometimes comes a point when you neither have the energy nor the will to carry on as you realise that all is not well in your marriage and it is in fact the end of the road. Here are some of the telltale signs to watch out for that indicate that your marriage is truly, finally over.
THERE IS TOO MUCH NEGATIVITY
If you feel like you are surrounded by negativity and every little thing is becoming a flashpoint between you, chances are the marriage is over! If you find that there are more bad experiences on a daily basis rather than good ones then the writing is on the wall. This marriage may not be worth saving if you really need to think about what’s so great about it.
NO GUILT OVER CHEATING
When we marry someone we care about their feelings and never want to hurt their feelings, if we can help it. Over time though, many couples find that they don’t care about how their partner feels in a particular situation. If you find yourself in a situation where you find yourself cheating on your partner sans the guilt, it is a worrisome sign, as it shows that you are beyond that point where you care enough to mend the situation and be loyal to your partner.
PHYSICAL INTIMACY IS A THING OF THE PAST
Physical intimacy is not always about sex, especially after the first flush of love. In a marriage, it is important to keep some form of physical intimacy alive; if you touch each other, hug, and kiss or merely hold hands, it is a sign that you want to remain connected. When you find that the need for any sort of physical intimacy is a thing of past and such a situation continues for several months or years, at an end you know your marriage is ringing a warning bell.
YOU LIVE SEPARATE LIVES
Independence is one thing and ensuring your lives don’t cross is another. If you find that you and your spouse don’t feel the need to talk about your day, your life, work or anything of importance, that should be a red flag, as it signals that there is no interest in each other’s lives. If you find that something important happens in your day and you don’t feel like calling your spouse instantly and sharing the news, chances are the marriage is over as you no longer feel that strong connect or the need for emotional intimacy.
THINKING ABOUT BEING FREE
If you find that you are thinking, even fantasizing about having your own life and your spouse is not part of the equation, it is likely that you want out of the marriage. If thinking about being on your own energises you, rather than devastating you, then the message is very clear— you really feel stuck in the marriage and are already imagining greener pastures without the other person being part of your life from here on!